For Michelle Williams, when it comes to cheating, there’s no blurring the line between love and hate–only shade. The singer speaks on Tiger and why cheating isn’t par for the course:
Dear Honey,
I’m very passionate about this topic [of cheating]. I have a low tolerance for people who aren’t loyal in any capacity.
Have I been cheated on? Yes. What's done in the dark always comes to the light. You will be exposed one day.
There are a myriad of reasons why someone cheats:
1. Boredom with your significant other
2. Wanting to feel desired
3. Wanting to make sure “you still got it”
4. Revenge
5. The pleasure you get from it [cheating] being a secret
6. Not wanting to be in a committed relationship in the first place
7. Not healing from a past relationship
There is actually no good excuse for cheating. I think when a person makes that choice, they know they’re making a bad choice but will deal with the consequences later. Ladies and gentleman, take it from Mr.Woods, what’s done in the dark always comes to the light. You will be exposed one day.
Let’s make better choices that ensure a healthy, prosperous future for ourselves and the ones we love!
God Bless,
Michelle Williams
I totally agree with the list of reasons, so the question is can you stay single and live life or do you want the main at home and still feel like doing dirt on the side?
Yes!! Preach Honey, I Mean Michelle Lol. But This Is So True And I Find That Number 5 Is A Major Reason That Gets Threw Under The Rug… But It’s True Female Group Xscape “You’re My Little Secret” Hit It Right On The Nail… They Get A “Rush” Because They Don’t Think They Are Going To Get Caught But Then They Get Their Bubble “Busted” When The Truth Comes Out. Then They Say It Was A Mistake Nope Ma’am A Mistake Is Spilling A Glass Of Milk… Cheating On Someone, A Test, Or Anyway In General Is Just Wrong…
Yes!! Preach Honey, I Mean Michelle Lol. But This Is So True And I Find That Number 5 Is A Major Reason That Gets Threw Under The Rug… But It’s True Female Group Xscape “You’re My Little Secret” Hit It Right On The Nail… They Get A “Rush” Because They Don’t Think They Are Going To Get Caught But Then They Get Their Bubble “Busted” When The Truth Comes Out. Then They Say It Was A Mistake Nope Ma’am A Mistake Is Spilling A Glass Of Milk… Cheating Is Just WRONG
{This is one of the many reasons why I love her! When you read her words or listen to her talk you feel like you’ve learned something & like you’ve just gotten some well needed wisdom. I’m happy that Honey Mag printed this so everyone can get some!
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Everything you said is SO true, and as far as your reasons go… you’re absolutely right. And if someone is feeling that way, then obviously the relationship isn’t working out so why not just end it instead of cheating and hurting the person even more, right? And if they want to stay with the person, then they need to decide and then work to fix the relationship instead of cheating.
I know I won’t be in no position to have my girl asking, “is she the reason?”
Amen on whats done in the dark comes to light. No good comes to you for cheating. One time I cheated just because I was accused of it. I never admitted to it but when we broke up and it was for good and it hurt me really really bad. There is no good excuse on cheating. Just don’t do it. If you are not happy, communicate on why you are not happy!
I so agree with you Michelle. There’s no reason to cheat! Only unsatisfied people with the relationship, cheat. So, why don’t you break up with the person and later get laid with the one you wish?
Btw, I love you Michelle and please come back musically! LOVE U! You’re so talented
Very nice picture and good article Michelle…..
I agree with everything that Michelle has to say. She made very valid points. Coming from a person who has admitted to be cheating on makes this story even more interesting.
I agree not healing from a past realtionship is something that is a HUGE part of cheating in future relationships.
U better preach Chelle! I HAVE BEEN CHEATED ON ALSO AND I FEEL THE SAME WAY AS U! THERE IS NO REASON FOR ANY ONE MALE OR FEMALE TO CHEAT! I FEEL THAT IF U DONT WANT THAT PERSON ANY MORE JUST TELL THEM! DONT GO CHEATING ON THEM BECAUSE THAT REALLY HURTS!
So true!
Being cheated is something that realy get mad some people. Even you think that is lost in a big-n-true love it could be a begin to made u regret all have did in life.My opinion it’s that part of being human feel atraction about others.This got a lot that i’ve been saw…And when it happens its time to think in what you want to. No fair go and take time of the someone’s life if you’re not prepared to doing it serious.
Amen Michelle! Cheaters are the worst.
wise words! fabulous pic!
comment conitued… i have never cheated but i have been cheated on and its a horrible feeling. it was a long distance relationship and i knew from the beginnging a long distance thing wouldnt work with me being in cali and him in florida. were both college students and i knew he wanted to “play the field” but i didnt listen to my intuition and got hurt. i would never do that to someone else becuz it doenst feel too great. =/ but i love that picture michelle!
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This is sooo true , i don’t have respect for unfaithful’ness
and even more when the girl or the boy is taking back their babies !!!
in my head , You cheat => you don’t love the person who you are cheating on !
Don’t think He/she will not do that again ! Even the thought of it makes me mad !
Ps: What a fierce picture !
Luv ma’ Chelle so much !!
wow I completely agree Chelle….cheating is a no no….tho i am very young i have been on both sides of the issue. Being someone who values personal growth I have no regrets because I was able to learn from every experience, but I am not ignorant to the fact that my actions, though they proliferated growth, still came with their share of consequences…I do know when someone cheats, it speaks more on a deprivation in the cheater than it does on whom is being cheated on.
It is said that there is nothing new under the sun, cheating is no difference. I don’t agree with it nor would I tolerate it in any situation. But if I am unfortunately reintroduced to this matter as an adult, I hope i am able to see that it might not be the act itself, but the actions that take place after it that defines one’s character…
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LAST THING !
For her next album i better see her in the cover of your mag Honey !!!!
Honey Mag staff if you hear me HOLAAAAAAAAAA ! LOL
You’re right Michelle. Cheaters always get caught!
I agree with Michelle. There is no good excuse to cheat. If you feel like your going to cheat….DON’T BE IN A RELATIONSHIP. Simple! People only commit when they really want to
Dear Michelle, I agree with you totally and I’m really glad you laid down all the reasons for cheating and still made it clear that regardless it is just not right!
i don’t think the person who does it realises that you have commited yourself to them totally made the sacrafice yourself to be faithful, truthful, honest, given up your time, your heart your right to be free, all of it for them and then to disgrace you by not respecting any of that and being so flippent and selfish care free about someone elses heart and feelings, it is not right at all. I don’t know if i have faith in relationships anymore but I hope that there are still people out there who truly no how to love…
thinks Tiger Woods should change his name to Cheetah!
So true, those who cheat inevitably end up getting cheated on. Karma can be real.
This article was great. Short, sweet and to the point. Now if only others lived this way, cheating would not be an issue.
I totally agree with what you are saying. It’s a sad thing and if you dont have respect for others that shows lack of respect for yourself. No matter what you’re going through or what you have been through you should never put a person in a situation of feeling less than. If you were cheated on and it hurt you; that should be enough reason to not want to put another person in that situation.
I definitely agree with what she is saying. There’s absolutely no good reason to cheat and NO ONE deserves to be cheated on! I’ve never been cheated but I hope to not have to experience that pain. I think by cheating on your spouse/significant other it shows a lack respect that you have for them. Infidelity shall never be excepted by anyone!
JeNae’ @4evajenae
I thank that your message is thoughtful. I am sad to say why we get caught up with infidelity. I think fear has avlot to do with we we cheat. We fear that we are not worthy of love. We fear that if our current love interest is not feeling us then we need to suppliment that void and seek someone or thing to fill that hole. There might be many reasons why but fear is a powerful determinant in why we cheat. I am learning now that “Perfect love cast out fear,” and that comes from trusting and loving yourself with Christ as your example. Then you can move on to share this love in as a whole person.
CHEATERS R ON THE BOTTOM OF MY LIST. NOBODY DESERVES TO B CHEATED ON OR DESERVE GETTN THEIR HEARTS/FEELINGS HURT. I HAD TWO EXPERIENCES WHERE IVE BEEN CHEATED ON. ITS NO GUD FEELIN. N PPL OFTEN TAKE THANGS OUT ON THEMSELVES. BUT IM JUST TELLN EVERYONE TO HANG IN THERE. N THANGS WILL GET BETTER. THANK YOU TO MICHELLE. I TOTALLY AGREE WIT YOU. YOU’RE SOOO AMAZING. LOVE YA 4 EVA.
I think that your message was thoughtful. I am sad to say why we get caught up with infidelity. I think fear that fear has lot to do with we we cheat. We fear that we are not worthy of love. We fear that if our current love interest is not feeling us then we need to suppliment that void and seek someone or some “thing” to fill that hole. There might be many reasons why we cheat, but fear is a powerful determinant. Thankfully, I am learning now that “Perfect love cast out fear,” and that comes from trusting and loving yourself with Christ as your example. Then you can move on to share this love in as a whole person.
wow, i can’t get over that picture of you Michelle!!! just wow!!!love the article btw
What else can I say after all has been said exept that cheating is CRUEL and selfish.when you cheat,you are showing no respect for URSELF…Michelle williams;singer,actres,song whritter,producer,ENTERTAINER,full time buisiness woman,humorist,lover,philantropist,advices giver…what else R U hiding from us Ms.williams???
We’d better always be expecting the unexpected with you,the WORLD AIN’T ready for you Madame.GOD BLESS
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im from Singapore and I stumbled upon this megazine…. hmmmm… Michelle… I think u are 100% right…. ur advice is great and always remember… do onto others and others will do onto uuu… karma people!
Those 7 points are the truest i have heard! It really is hard to find a good man, but to find one & keep one you have to be a good woman!! What’s done in the dark ALWAYS comes to the light… so why do it in the first place.. its something i will never understand,but thats just the way it goes…
Well said Michelle I Love you soo much! You inspire me to be better & smarter! Your voice is incredible, your so talented & blessed in so many ways… Never Change
xxx
I agree with everything that you just said….i been on both ends and i feel that it is not right when i was doing it….but there is no excuse and i feel that if ur going to cheat or consider cheating on someone that u might as well end it before you begin with the deception.
Love the pic, and i totally agree with you!
argee with you 1000%
This is a good article. I will try to restrain myself if I have the urge to cheat at cards in future.
Yeah, I have to agree with you Michelle 100%. In this day and age when a young man’s masculinity is measured by how many women he sleeps with at any given time. I can only speak from a man’s perspective when I say it’s a weak a selfish act when you cheat. Weak because the only time you show commitment is when you commit to living a lie, and think that the truth is going to stay sealed because “you got it like that”. Selfish because while you are being unfaithful the thought never dawns on you that maybe the person would have just appreciated knowing what they were getting into before they signed up for this relationship. Maybe then it wouldn’t be such a sneaky ordeal and the fault would be on them for not believing you would do your dirt in the first place. Bottom line you reap what you sow-PERIOD.
p.s. You look very elegant and beautiful in the pic, I agree with others who say we need to see you on the cover A.S.A.P
this is soo true tell it michelle , ive been cheated on and i choose not to get in a relationship because i know i will probably cheaT. But still gettin cheated on not fun lol.. glad people open up to speak about it
xxx
agree with everything michelle ur fantastic i would never cheat on u lol
Amen to that Michelle! Everything eventually comes to light