Love got your panties in a bunch? Drop trou and @honeymag’s resident sexpert, will answer your juiciest questions. So get @Wale and spill it.
Q: What’s the difference between making love and f*cking?
A: I’ve never considered myself a sex addict, though I do enjoy an occasional nut as much as the next guy. But as I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned to appreciate the value of the highest form of physical attraction/affection — making love. Most of us get the urge often; mine normally come after a night of weed and alcohol… or that morning stretch. Not sure how my ladies’ urges occurs or how often. You all tend to be quite sporadic and random with your hormones.
The art of making love seems like a pastime, whereas f*cking, has become this generation’s making-out. I think men pursue it a bit more aggressively then women — after clubs, after school, etc. I personally enjoy the occasional quickie but never OD. Too much sex can be counterproductive, and truthfully, I’m pursuing monogamy — even if it is pessimistically searching. Sexing, in my humble opinion, has nothing to do with feelings or physical attraction for that matter. I think a woman can be sexy but not cute or bun-able (aka “wifeable” in DC terminology). These women are the ones who get me thinking ‘bout pulling their hair back and moving some furniture, but nothing more then a 15-minute — 25 if there’s some VSOP nearby. There is no passion, no strings attached. There may be welts and bruises.
It’s essentially a sexual spar between two vigorous opponents — with no losers. Henney with no chase.
But don’t assume I haven’t been on the receiving end. I’ve even mistaken a f*ck for a love session before. Not fun. Making love is simply put: poetry in motion. Stroke her to the beat of her favorite song. Strawberries, Champagne, a bubble bath, eye contact. Hearing her heart beat while slowly handling business.
The aftermath of lovemaking is almost as important as the actual act. Gazing at the ceiling until we doze off. Running fingers through hair. Her playing with the dreads, ears, or whatever she deems necessary after the act. Sometimes a female needs to be reminded that there are feelings behind the sex. And to never be confused with sexing.
Making love, in my opinion is what makes the world go round. The toughest dude, the most cold hearted gold-digger — they all have that thing. Even if it’s buried in a dark place. I believe the art of making love (when it ACTUALLY is LOVE… MUTUALLY) is like an exercise of the soul. It’s like massaging the deepest feeling you could have for someone. For fear of sounding like the turning point of a Tyler Perry flick, I’ll gracefully bow out of the in-depth description, but before I go, I want to remind everyone that the difference between sexing and making love should never be confused.
Love safe, love hard, and love consistently!
Awesomeness! Well written and from the heart. Love hearing it explained from a man who understands the difference.
Much success in music and in love! ok, bye
(@reignsunshine)
My sentiments exactly
Very nicely put!
My sentiments exactly.
Very well put.
aint even finish reading it and am already geekin…that joint was on point doe…sounded like realtalk with no fakin…..
Okay, Wale. I wonder which you prefer “sexing” or “making love”? Me, I prefer making love with words or the bedroom. Lol.
“f*cking, has become this generation’s making-out.” Agreed, Pucker up prospects. lol i kid i kid
Sorry, Solange. I think I am in love, lol…That was right on time. Well written!
This was put perfectly.
“I’m pursuing monogamy — even if it is pessimistically searching.”
I had to cosign that one.
This was very well written. I am surprised that men think this way. Ever so often I am reminded that men can be thoughtful and do have emotions, even though they are often “buried in a dark place”.
I JUST HIM!!!! *MELTS*
This article made my day…no bs!!! im going to forward it to every confused female/male i know bc they stay messin it up…lol
AWESOME article Wale…very well said. Whomever u become monogamous with will be a very satisfied (well more than satisfied) young lady. Wishing you love, and happiness <3
Damn. You are good with your words my man. I love how real you are and how you use rap to make a difference in this world. Keep working hard you are the best out there I trully believe that. I am one of the few caucasians that say “Wale’s us”.
Well put Sweetie…I feel everything that u said and feel that its tru…
fc*king is a game for most ppl nowadays and making love is like a thing of the past for many…
profound and right to the point, i wish u elaborated further because it looks ur were about to drop jewels on ur female funs. who is the lucky lady?
This was very well written! “Her playing with the dreads, ears, or whatever she deems necessary after the fact,” huh? You are a true LINGUIST.
Ok, bye!
LOVE IT! & YES he is soooo dead on. I dig his way of thinking. He puts his words together so eloquently to get his point across. GOOD STUFF WALE!
A wonderful article, Wale you are on point
excellent!!
Fuckin Dope! No dickeatin thats some shit i would’ve said. Hey yo thanks for that shades joint that shit be havin me lookin in the sky smiling and shit g.
smh. he’d have gotten me with that speech lol. never knew he had such a way with words. but he hurt my soul with the “her playing with the dreads” statement…ahh how i miss my DC boo :/
wale is the man … i enjoyed reading that..
amen Wale!! lemme find out! you’re gonna make some lady very happy one day cuz u UNDERSTAND.
Did it really take that many words to answer that one question? I can’t believe he dating Solange.
Even though I can’t stand Wale, that was well put!
lol@bunable! yes..that’s my city’s slang all day! Wale you are definitely a bunn!!! I love it!! Very well said..and your vocab is on point sweetie! love ya! keep grinding! DC STAND UP!
WOW.. IMPRESSED……………..
on the point of love making and fucking you have to be in a trance almost if you feel me and stay at the platau because it can easily get carried away but thats not bad im just responding to love making and f***ing . but i feel like love making is entering your soul and your heart. and your on an all time high forever. because thats what love is suppose to be. im out……
I am glad Wale put that in perspective. it is hard for a female to decipher the difference. Yes, you are totally correct our generation basically f!@#s when our parents used to make out. I can’t speak for everybody but in my situation, I don’t have the time or the patience for the relationship and I am 23. So opt to f!@# if I am not in the mood for my toy. Maybe it is because i never been mad loved to.
dame!! can u marry me, so well put, but so many still don’t understand.
Wooowwww…ur beautiful descriptively put breakdown on love making was,and i think, carefully constructed to make everyone rethink THE VALUE of what they r doing in the bed. No matter what someone’s personal thoughts were on that subject,after reading all your articles, any subject u command a respect for u art or for better words ur way of thinking. I <3 IT….Its like ur so far out the box that this is no box. wish there were more liberated verbal minds out there as yourself…Keep it comming…:)